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The 12 Habits of Happy Couples

A habit is a consistent and regular pattern of behavior. You can choose to create a positive or a negative habit and once you start them, they become an unconscious act. Habits have a powerful impact in a relationship thus the need to be conscious when creating routines. You will need to make an effort to practice them in order for it to become second nature. It normally takes twenty one days to establish a habit whether it is positive or negative.

1. Happy couples settle their disputes peacefully.

When angry, it is essential to avoid yelling or even saying words that you cannot take back. There should be a plan for each one person to walk away.

2.They spend quality time together.

With busy schedules, couples forget to relax and enjoy themselves. However, it is vital to create sometime for each other. Two people can be sitting right next to each other yet they are miles apart.

3.Appreciate and help each other to grow.

When there is an open appreciation for the significant other, it leads to a productive and fulfilling peaceful relationship. Such couples celebrate their achievements and encourage each other’s ambitions and goals. This leads to self development.

4.Happy couples live with integrity.

They are able to trust each other and know that they have not been taken advantage of. It is essential to live daily with integrity, fairness and reliability.

5. They are devoted and loyal.

True love and real friendship is not about being inseparable. Love is about two people being true to each other even when they are not together. When it comes to relationships, being faithful is not an option but a priority.

6. Love and respect each other as individuals.

It is essential not to rely on your significant other or even anyone else for your self worth and happiness. You are the only one who can be responsible for that. If you cannot love and respect yourself, no one else will be able to.

7. Support each other during good and bad times.

You should be there through the bad, sad and happy times. Know that you can count on each other and be available not only when it is convenient but when it is needed the most.

8. Know that every relationship is different.

You should never compare your relationship to anyone else. Every couple has their own love rules, habits and arguments. Focus on the two of you and make your relationship to be the best it can be.

9. There is an emphasis on listening and communication.

No one can read minds therefore your partner cannot tell how you are feeling if you do not talk to them. Be clear and specific with yourself on what you want and make an effort to know what the needs of your partner are.

10.Turn negatives into positives.

If the two of you are honest with each other and with yourselves, you should look at the negatives and list them. Work as a team to handle each negative one by one.

11. Work on thoughtfulness everyday.

People that are successful in their relationships nurture their partners often. You need to ask yourself what you can do today to make the life of your better half better.

12. Have realistic expectations.

Relationships are not what you see in the movies. They happen as each person values the other and is willing to make an investment of time in their relationship. They know that not all days will be full of romance and passion.

Source: https://www.guidedmind.com/blog/the-12-habits-of-happy-couples

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12 Kebiasaan dari Pasangan yang Berbahagia

1. Pasangan yang berbahagia menyelesaikan perselisihan mereka secara DAMAI.

Ketika marah, adalah penting untuk menghindari berteriak atau bahkan mengucapkan kata-kata yang Anda tidak dapat tarik kembali. Harus ada rencana dari salah satu untuk pergi meninggalkan perdebatan tersebut.

2. Mereka menghabiskan waktu berkualitas bersama

Dengan jadwal yang sibuk, pasnagan biasanya lupa unutk bersantai dan besenang-senang bersama. Namun, merupakan hal yang sangat vital / penting bahwa perlu diadakannya waktu bersama, walaupun jarak memisahkan.

3. Saling menghargai dan membantu agar dapat bertumbuh

Ketika sikap menghargai dilakukan untuk kepentingan pasangan, hal tersebut akan menuntun kepada hubungan yang produktif dan hubungan yang damai. Pasangan dapat merayakan keberhasilan dan menyemangatai satu sama lain, maka hal tersebut akan membawa kepada pengembangan diri yang lebih baik.

4. Pasangan yang berbahagia hidup di dalam INTEGRITAS.

Mereka saling percaya dan menyadari bahwa mereka tidak saling memanfaatkan. Hal ini penting untuk menjalani kehidupan sehari-hari dengan intergritas, sikap adil, dapat dipercaya, dan tahan uji.

5. Mereka saling setia

Cinta sejati dan persahabatan sejati bukan tentang tidak terpisahkan. Cinta adalah tentang dua orang yang apa adanya satu sama lain bahkan ketika mereka tidak bersama-sama. Ketika datang ke hubungan, setia bukanlah suatu pilihan, tapi prioritas.

6. Cintai dan Hormati satu sama lain sebagai Individu

Penting untuk tidak menggantungkan kebahagiaan dan nilai Anda di tangan orang lain. Anda adalah satu-satunya yang dapat bertanggung jawab untuk itu. Jika Anda tidak dapat mencintai dan menghargai diri Anda sendiri, tidak ada orang lain lagi yang mampu.

7. Saling mendukung di waktu susah maupun senang.

Anda harus berada disana ketika pasangan Anda mengalami hal sulit, sedih, atau senang. Menyadari bahwa kalian dapat saling bergantung dan hadir tidak hanya di saat senang tapi juga di saat sulit.

8. Menyadari bahwa setiap hubungan itu berbeda.

Jangan pernah membandingkan hubunganmu dengan orang lain. Setiap pasangan memiliki aturan, kebiasaan, dan pergumulannya sendiri. Berfokuslah pada kalian berdua dan buatlah hubungan kalian menjadi hubungan yang terbaik yang kalian bisa. ^_^

9. Ada perhatian pada mendengarkan dan komunikasi.

Tidak ada yang bisa membaca pikiran karena itu pasangan Anda tidak bisa mengatakan bagaimana perasaan Anda jika Anda tidak berbicara dengan mereka. Ungkapkan dengan jelas dan spesifik dengan diri sendiri pada apa yang Anda inginkan dan berusahalah untuk mengetahui apa kebutuhan pasangan Anda.

10. Mengubah hal negatif menjadi positif.

Anda berdua dapat jujur terhadap satu sama lain. Tulislah semua hal yang Anda rasakan tentang pasangan dan bekerjasamalah sebagai 1 tim untuk membicarakan dan mencari solusi dari hal-hal yang kalian anggap negatif tersebut.

11. Bekerjalah dengan penuh perhatian setiap hari.

Orang-orang yang sukses dalam hubungan adalah mereka yang memelihara pasangannya. Anda perlu bertanya pada diri sendiri apa yang dapat Anda lakukan hari ini untuk membuat kehidupan Anda lebih baik.

12. Memiliki harapan yang realistis

Suatu hubungan adalah bukan yang sering Anda lihat di film. Hal itu terjadi jika setiap orang menghargai yang lain dan bersedia untuk melakukan investasi waktu dalam hubungan mereka. Mereka tahu bahwa tidak semua hari akan penuh cinta dan gairah, maka mereka berjuang untuk melakukan yang terbaik. 

Translator: MerryREMA

"Glenn cuma mau gunting rambut di Tangerang" hehehe..

"No One Said Love Was Easy, But Here’s Why It’s Worth All The Trouble"

No One Said Love Was Easy,
But Here’s Why It’s Worth All The Trouble

- by Michelle Hu

I’ve been thinking a lot about relationships lately. I’ve found they tend to be simple at their cores, but we complicate matters when we’re in them.

We’ve all experienced friends telling us complicated stories about things that are not right in their relationships, but in the same breath, they tell us how devastatingly in love they are with their partners.

In the next breath, however, they tell us they’re not sure they’re meant to be together forever.

They tell us that though they love their partners so much, they sometimes worry. They question their feelings.

They tell us story after story, some of which leave us believing they’re meant to be, and several that leave us questioning why they ever got together in the first place.

When we recount these stories, we tend to think they’re simple. We tell others they met at the wrong time, or they’re just not right for each other at this very moment.

Perhaps, some day in the future, they’ll become the right people for one another. Just not now.

We tell people they’re just too different, and from our perspective, this seems to be very clear. We can see where things unravel, why their fights last until dawn breaks and why each person is just too tired to keep things going.

Despite this perceived clarity, we watch them try. We see them struggle, fight after fight, with each tear as a painful reminder of another.

The lyrics of one of Billie Holiday’s most famous song offers an explanation that many have come to accept:

“All who love are blind… smoke gets in your eyes.”

But, is the intensity of love creating a smoke of emotion that clouds our perception of the truth?

We think the truth is there, and present each time we have that same fight. It’s there each time we cry those hopeless tears. It’s there each time we go to sleep angry, unsure of whether we’ll ever find a resolution.

Our feelings for the other person and the good times we can’t get out of our heads complicate the situation.

These memories become the gel that keeps us glued to the person we fought so hard to keep. Time after time, we think we see the truth — we weren’t meant to be — and it eats at us.

Like drowning sailors desperate to stay afloat, we cast line after line, hoping one of them will finally catch. We’re in love.

We’ve never felt this way before about anyone. When push comes to shove and the relationship comes to a breaking point, we miss the other person with an intensity of emotion we never knew existed.

We are desperate and we are lost. Pain like this shouldn’t be experienced, we think to ourselves. Pain like this is unreal. In the words of Jeanette Winterson,

“Why is the measure of love loss?”

I don’t think we realize what the truth is and what it has been this entire time: The world has never been perfect, and it never will be.

We think things will always work out how we want, if we just try hard enough, and it simply isn’t true.

The world can be inexplicably brutal at times, without reason. An idea I think many idealistic minds were raised to believe is if you do your very best, the world will treat you fairly.

Our struggle to maintain that belief is what keeps us in this constant struggle for perfection. With that constant struggle and belief comes inevitable disappointment and frustration.

Much of our pain and disillusionment comes from that very expectation. Two unique, beautiful and intelligent people, who have very different ideas about how their lives will turn out, have a very small chance of agreeing on everything.

We don’t spend enough time thinking about what a miracle it is when you find someone to love. It is a greater miracle indeed, when the person your heart desires wants you back just as fervently.

I recall how difficult it was to find someone who made me feel like I finally found the person for whom I’d been searching. When that person fell in love with me, I remember thinking about how lucky I was to be with the one I dreamed about at night.

The probability of one person’s affections being matched by another was, in my opinion, infinitesimal, and I genuinely felt like the stars had suddenly aligned. I was pretty damn lucky, I thought, and I wasn’t about to let that luck get away from me.

You know that feeling you get when you wake up on a Sunday morning next to the love of your life, and you smile simply because you’re so happy he or she is next to you?

That feeling you get when you’re dancing with someone in your living room and you feel like you could die in his or her arms as the happiest person on the planet? That doesn’t come around very often.

In fact, I’d venture to say it might only happen once or twice in a lifetime.

I’ve found that many tend to take love for granted. One too many disagreements, and they tell themselves they’ll just hop back on OkCupid and find another love.

What I don’t think we spend enough time thinking about is the fact that our lives are very short.

Life will never be perfect, and it won’t always play out in ways we expect. We can’t control what happens to us, but we can make the best of what we’re given. And, in this imperfect world, the greatest thing we can do is lead lives that are lived passionately.

When you find a love that feels like the best thing you’ve ever had, one that makes you pinch yourself because you can’t believe your luck, hold onto it with everything you have.

I know when I leave this Earth, I would rather have died trying to live my life as a beautiful mess, rather than simply as an acceptable expectation.

“Unless it’s mad, passionate, extraordinary love, it’s a waste of your time. There are too many mediocre things in life. Love shouldn’t be one of them.” — Unknown

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We attended Rey's Birthday, and go to Puncak~